Today in my disciplines class I had my students do an exercise that Stephen Covey talks about in his Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. I had them visualize their funeral three years from today and what they would want their loved ones to say about them at their funeral/memorial.
So here is my first stab at the exercise:
- I would want my wife to say that I loved her unendingly, exceedingly. That I was a faithful husband and a caring companion. I would want her to say that I sharpened her in her fiath as she sharpened me. That I reflected joy in our time together.
- I would want my daughters to say that I was a father who never ceased to tell them that I loved them. That I was a dad who SHOWED them what a Christian was far more than simply TELLING them what to do in their faith. And by being such an example, they desired themselves to follow Jesus because of what they witnessed. They knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that I cared for and helped protect them. That I showed them that while I wasn’t perfect, I was one who would be quick to ask for forgiveness when I blew it. That I showed them how to really “Carpe Diem” as I gave them a love for worship, laughter, roller coasters, the church, the ocean, skiing, travel, music, Sabbath, and ministry.
- I would want my students who’ve I had the privilege to minister to to say that I was a person who always directed/pointed them to Jesus. I was a sign post directing them away from me to Jesus. That I cared and loved them but his PASSION for Jesus and the Journey was infectious. He taught me to THINK about faith and gave me “out of the box” ideas as to how to live out my faith. He never gave me a pre-packaged, marketed, simplified, consumer faith, but was AUTHENTIC about what it meant to follow Jesus.
I know I am not perfect. I won’t be until heaven. I don’t want to delude myself into thinking I am. But what I strive for most is AUTHENTIC FAITHFULNESS.
What is great about an exercise like this is that is gives me a concrete target to strive towards with my faith, my character and my behavior. So I have to go now and get my wife some flowers and make my daughters a play list for their iTunes of “Music they Must Love.”